Help with Relationships
Individual Counseling in Austin, TX
As individuals, we're meant to grow and change which means our relationships have to adapt. Do you sometimes get the feeling you’re too sensitive or too much for people? Or maybe you avoid intimacy altogether by keeping people at an arm's length. Rejection is scary, but loneliness and isolation are worse.
We are all lifelong learners when it comes to relationships.
Chances are that many of the skills that serve you well in your professional life may not serve you as well in your personal life, which is why we have therapists!
Helping people with relationships is my bread and butter. Not because I'm perfect at them, but because I'm deeply passionate about the importance of connection and I find so much joy in helping people build them. I believe we learn the most about ourselves in relationships with others.
Relationships should be a place for you to heal and grow and a place to embrace your true self. You deserve that kind of relationship.
Whether you're single, going through a break-up or currently in a relationship, my job is to help you feel more clear about how you're engaging in your relationships and to help you navigate and create the relationships you want to see in your life.
There are many reasons people avoid asking for the help they need, but I want you to know:
You’re allowed to take care of yourself.
We are all lifelong learners when it comes to relationships.
Chances are that many of the skills that serve you well in your professional life may not serve you as well in your personal life, which is why we have therapists!
Helping people with relationships is my bread and butter. Not because I'm perfect at them, but because I'm deeply passionate about the importance of connection and I find so much joy in helping people build them. I believe we learn the most about ourselves in relationships with others.
Relationships should be a place for you to heal and grow and a place to embrace your true self. You deserve that kind of relationship.
Whether you're single, going through a break-up or currently in a relationship, my job is to help you feel more clear about how you're engaging in your relationships and to help you navigate and create the relationships you want to see in your life.
There are many reasons people avoid asking for the help they need, but I want you to know:
You’re allowed to take care of yourself.
It's okay to put yourself first sometimes
If you're worried about not having real problems deserving of real help--What exactly constitutes a real problem? Where did you get this message? Just because you go to work (or class) everyday and can pull off appearing that you have it all together does not mean that you do. You are human. You are allowed to struggle, and you are allowed to take care of yourself by coming to counseling.
You don't have to wait
If you're stuck in a loop of overanalyzing and you think waiting it out will make the thoughts go away--Well maybe it will, but how long do you want to wait for that to happen? If you're in your head, chances are you're not in your body and you're not engaged in your life and relationships. Let's get to talking (and breathing) and see what other options there are.
It's okay to feel vulnerable
If the thought of really being seen makes you nervous-- I get it, and join the club. We all have lovely and clever ways of defending against vulnerability, and it's especially easy when we can literally filter our lives to make them look more appealing on social media. If there's a disconnect between what you think people see and what you see and feel in yourself, let's see how we can make space for both.
You're allowed to take care of yourself
If you're worried about not having real problems deserving of real help--What exactly constitutes a real problem? Where did you get this message? Just because you go to work (or class) everyday and can pull off appearing that you have it all together does not mean that you do. You are human. You are allowed to struggle, and you are allowed to take care of yourself by coming to counseling.
You don't have to wait
If you're stuck in a loop of overanalyzing and you think waiting it out will make the thoughts go away--Well maybe it will, but how long do you want to wait for that to happen? If you're in your head, chances are you're not in your body and you're not engaged in your life and relationships. Let's get to talking (and breathing) and see what other options there are.
It's okay to feel vulnerable
If the thought of really being seen makes you nervous-- I get it, and join the club. We all have lovely and clever ways of defending against vulnerability, and it's especially easy when we can literally filter our lives to make them look more appealing on social media. If there's a disconnect between what you think people see and what you see and feel in yourself, let's see how we can make space for both.
My passions
in working with individuals in counseling
Overcoming relational trauma and unfinished business
Are the distressing emotions rooted in unresolved family of origin issues influence your everyday life more than you want to admit? Your past does not have to define you.
Exploring relational patterns
Do you see a pattern in how all of your relationships end and the challenges you face in every relationship? Together we can figure out how that happens and how to break the cycle.
Helping you breathe
Sounds simple, right? Mindfulness and breathing techniques can make a big difference in your ability to manage difficult emotions.
Overcoming feelings of shame
Shame thrives on secrecy and isolation. As soon as we start talking, shame starts to lose its power. Compassion and connection are essential to creating resilience.
Building a connection with self
We don’t need to fit in, we need to belong. A sense of belonging requires being more of yourself. If you are not sure how to do that or who you are, I can help you strengthen your identity.
Finding your voice
It’s frustrating and lonely when life feels like it’s “happening to you.” I hope to empower you in your decisions and relationships.
Set your appointment
Whether you still have questions or are ready to make an appointment, I'd love to chat with you on the phone.
Address
4131 Spicewood Springs Road, Bldg. C Suite 8 Austin, TX, 78759
Phone
830-351-8477
info@alexbarnettecounseling.com
