Can you relate to this? People generally seek counseling because they are either trying to accept change or create change—either something major has changed and they’re trying to cope or nothing has changed and something needs to. Both are equally challenging to navigate alone. In my experience, the individual that initiates therapy is usually the...
Photo by Aaron Burden on Unsplash In a longterm relationship, personalities tend to be similar and competing or opposite and complementary. There’s not a right a or wrong here, but my impression is that couples in the opposite category tend to think they’ve made a mistake. What was once exciting and romantic is now tiring...
Photo by Ken Treloar “Why am I always responsible for _____?” As much as I hate to say it, there’s probably a lot of truth to the answer “because you’re good at it”. Adulthood is filled with responsibilities so it makes sense to divide and conquer when we can. One way of doing this (often...
While trying to make sense of the bombings in Austin this phrase keeps popping into my mind over and over. The piece I can’t seem to let go of is how during these tragedies we need a community more than ever yet instead we’re told to beware of the villains. To me this message cultivates...
It’s almost the weekend, which for some means a handful of plans you are half-committed to. We’ve all heard about what it means to live in a swipe culture and we’ve all experienced flaky friends and have probably been flaky ourselves at times (guilty!). It’s frustrating for people to cancel last minute and it stinks...
Photo by Simon Matzinger Yes. If you let them. How do you react when your partner or family member finally starts responding to you differently or doing the things you’ve been asking them to do? I know you’d like to think you embrace that change, but do you really? More often what I see is...
We can only process so much at once. When we overload someone with too much information either emotionally or intellectually we’re actually protecting the other person from hearing what we have to say. Keep it simple & wait for cues to continue.
Photo by Tamara Menzi “I give you an inch and you take a mile”. Sound familiar? When you first hear this your instinct might be to think nothing you do is ever enough. In reality it might be that the FREQUENCY is not enough. I like to compare this to dieting. Have you ever tried to...
