Hopefully you were able to enjoy what you could over the holidays and hopefully you are finding some relief in getting back into the swing of things, but if you are finding that you feel anxious about how you are going to juggle everything this upcoming year–this post is for you. I have been...
In an ideal world, when we feel stressed–we would actively move towards the things that are going to help us de-stress. But sometimes getting going is the hardest part. Sometimes stress creates paralysis, and we find ourselves pendulating back and forth between “can’t stop moving” to “can’t get off the couch”. If you are...
The most wonderful time of the year really isn’t so wonderful when you’re overwhelmed or lonely. At this point, I should know better than to watch any Hallmark movies during this time of the year, but I can’t ever seem to quite let go of the fantasy of the holiday season. Every year it’s...
If you are someone that thrives on setting goals for each year, you might already be in the process of starting to think about next year. It can be really challenging to think about 2024 if you are feeling like all you did was survive 2023. The new year tends to bring hope and the...
Right now there seems to be some collective hopelessness and fatigue sinking in, and it’s times like these I’m reminded I’ve had a lot of practice with trudging through hopelessness in my work as a therapist. I’ve learned that there are 5 things that help me to feel inspired again when I’m feeling hopeless: ...
As we all attempt to make sense of COVID-19 and attempt to cope with the uncertainty it brings, I wanted to share some of the free flow thoughts that have been circling in my head the past few days. 1. The future may be unpredictable, but we tend to respond in predictable ways. Yes,...
If you’re a parent, I don’t need to tell you that there are a million little things to do for your kid or kids everyday. Rather than go through each task, chore, etc. I’ve noticed that most couples seem to do a generalized overview of who does what and that becomes the status quo until...
I’ve gone back and forth on this idea for a long time. Sometimes you just need a break from therapy. Sometimes it’s easier to justify making time for exercise than it is to justify therapy. You might find yourself thinking, “You know, running, yoga, etc. is basically the same thing”. Sometimes I have the same...
It’s been years since my Grandma Aki passed and sometimes the grief still catches me off guard. I think this is mostly because there were a lot of parts to grieve—her as a person and our relationship, her role as the glue and comedic relief in my family and the unconditional supporter of everyone, the...
During the most wonderful time of the year, you might notice that your relationship is a little more strained than usual. As a couples therapist, I’ve gotten pretty familiar with the influx of couples requests I get at the beginning of November. More specifically, I’ve gotten familiar with the state most new couples’ relationships are...
