If someone asked me to, I could probably delineate every chore we had in my family growing up and whose responsibility it was. I know my dad scrubbed the bathroom tubs and toilets and my mom vacuumed and dusted. My dad mowed the yard; my mom did the laundry. My dad packed our lunches and...
The truth is we all have a desire for someone else to change and there’s nothing wrong with that. The important thing is that we take a moment to reflect and understand where this desire is coming from to make sure our fingers are pointing in the right direction. What can I learn from the...
In modern relationships, you can’t really win when it comes to ending a relationship. There’s a stigma associated with divorce (“how selfish of you”) and there’s a stigma associated with staying in a relationship that doesn’t make you happy (“you must have low self-worth”). Despite what outside messages you might receive, there does not have...
Knowing if you should stay or leave your relationship is no easy task. There are so many conflicting messages out there about what a relationship can and should offer. Plus, the initial attraction and forming of a relationship is largely an emotional experience. The longer you are in the relationship, the more complex the decision...
In our society, there’s always so much talk about finding happiness and being happy. When we’re living a joyous existence, that kind of messaging might feel uplifting, but when we’re struggling with major changes or growth experiences that same “finding happiness” messaging can make us want to scream. Have you ever experienced that? What does...
It can be fun for couples to give themselves new language and tools to elevate their love and intimacy (or recover it, when it feels lost).
Fighting alone is not a problem, it can actually be a sign of a healthy relationship.
No matter how we approach our relationships, measuring safety and security in the relationship more or less boils down to the central question "Are you there for me?"
Photo by Ed Lauton Many of us are well-versed in identifying personal goals and tracking progress towards those goals on a regular basis. There are life coaches, endless self-help books, and journals galore to support this notion. What if we were to do the same for our relationships? What if we made it a habit...
