Couples Counseling0This Couples Counseling Technique Helps People Stay Connected (are you using it?)
It can be fun for couples to give themselves new language and tools to elevate their love and intimacy (or recover it, when it feels lost).
Responding immediately is attractive because it’s very rare even though it seems so obvious. It’s so rare because most people procrastinate. In fact, you may need to upgrade systems, streamline, automate and change your whole manner of responding to people and tasks in order to provide an immediate response.
Fighting alone is not a problem, it can actually be a sign of a healthy relationship.
No matter how we approach our relationships, measuring safety and security in the relationship more or less boils down to the central question "Are you there for me?"
Photo by Aaron Burden on Unsplash In a longterm relationship, personalities tend to be similar and competing or opposite and complementary. There’s not a right a or wrong here, but my impression is that couples in the opposite category tend to think they’ve made a mistake. What was once exciting and romantic is now tiring...
Photo by Ken Treloar “Why am I always responsible for _____?” As much as I hate to say it, there’s probably a lot of truth to the answer “because you’re good at it”. Adulthood is filled with responsibilities so it makes sense to divide and conquer when we can. One way of doing this (often...
While trying to make sense of the bombings in Austin this phrase keeps popping into my mind over and over. The piece I can’t seem to let go of is how during these tragedies we need a community more than ever yet instead we’re told to beware of the villains. To me this message cultivates...
It’s almost the weekend, which for some means a handful of plans you are half-committed to. We’ve all heard about what it means to live in a swipe culture and we’ve all experienced flaky friends and have probably been flaky ourselves at times (guilty!). It’s frustrating for people to cancel last minute and it stinks...
Photo by Simon Matzinger Yes. If you let them. How do you react when your partner or family member finally starts responding to you differently or doing the things you’ve been asking them to do? I know you’d like to think you embrace that change, but do you really? More often what I see is...
We can only process so much at once. When we overload someone with too much information either emotionally or intellectually we’re actually protecting the other person from hearing what we have to say. Keep it simple & wait for cues to continue.