Couples Counseling in Austin, TX
In working with couples, I would describe my approach as experiential, systemic, and collaborative. I primarily draw from my training in PACT. Among other theories, PACT uses an integration of Gottman's research, family system theories, and attachment theory.
Are you reaching a breaking point in your relationship?
In theory, you and your partner should be in a lifeboat together, but it may not feel that way. Maybe one of you is the eternal optimist and the other is feeling hopeless. Yet you’re both starting to feel the pressure and tension build—finances, job instability, childcare, the never-ending chores. You’re treading water and you need a lifeline.
I can help you weather this storm.
I can help you get clear on what does and doesn’t matter right now. I’ll help you remember what it’s like to love and connect with each other. Together we’ll strategize, establish boundaries, collaborate, and find the hope. I truly believe couples hold more power than they know, but they’re often too busy fighting each other or just getting through the day to realize it.
If you're ready to get to work, so am I.
What is PACT?
PACT (Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy) is more of a “show-me” therapy. So instead of just talking about the relationship (outside of the room), you and your partner will often face each other in the room and show me what it looks like when you interact so that we can create changes in the here and now. It can be awkward at first, but you'll feel so much better knowing you're actually getting somewhere. Learn more about PACT here.
Relationships are hard work, but they are not impossible. Counseling is a great opportunity to improve communication and repair and strengthen your relationship.
The process of couples therapy:
Are you reaching a breaking point in your relationship?
In theory, you and your partner should be in a lifeboat together, but it may not feel that way. Maybe one of you is the eternal optimist and the other is feeling hopeless. Yet you’re both starting to feel the pressure and tension build—finances, job instability, childcare, the never-ending chores. You’re treading water and you need a lifeline.
I can help you weather this storm.
I can help you get clear on what does and doesn’t matter right now. I’ll help you remember what it’s like to love and connect with each other. Together we’ll strategize, establish boundaries, collaborate, and find the hope. I truly believe couples hold more power than they know, but they’re often too busy fighting each other or just getting through the day to realize it.
If you're ready to get to work, so am I.
What is PACT?
PACT (Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy) is more of a “show-me” therapy. So instead of just talking about the relationship (outside of the room), you and your partner will often face each other in the room and show me what it looks like when you interact so that we can create changes in the here and now. It can be awkward at first, but you'll feel so much better knowing you're actually getting somewhere. Learn more about PACT here.
Relationships are hard work, but they are not impossible. Counseling is a great opportunity to improve communication and repair and strengthen your relationship.
The process of couples therapy:
Creating Emotional Safety
When defenses are up, it’s nearly impossible to get anywhere in a conversation. Together we will create a safe space where you both feel comfortable talking more openly. Most people end up feeling a sense of relief, as though a weight has been lifted.
Going below the surface
We’re good at hiding from the real issues. Good therapy is about getting to the deeper problems (hint: it’s never really just about the laundry or finances).
Practicing Over Time
Change does not occur in one hit-and-run conversation. Resolving conflict and getting closer is hard, and it takes practice. Therapy does get easier, and it has the potential for big gains.
Creating Emotional Safety
When defenses are up, it’s nearly impossible to get anywhere in a conversation. Together we will create a safe space where you both feel comfortable talking more openly. Most people end up feeling a sense of relief, as though a weight has been lifted.
Going below the surface
We’re good at hiding from the real issues. Good therapy is about getting to the deeper problems (hint: it’s never really just about the laundry or finances).
Practicing Over Time
Change does not occur in one hit-and-run conversation. Resolving conflict and getting closer is hard, and it takes practice. Therapy does get easier, and it has the potential for big gains.
My passions
in working with couples in counseling
Navigating Transitions
Moving in, getting married, preparing for kids, thinking about breaking up or getting divorced—these can all be stressful moments in a relationship.
Facilitating Connection
There are many ways to connect in a relationship (verbally, sexually, emotionally, etc.). Intimacy, like dancing, is an art-form which must be practiced.
Addressing unmet needs and improving communication
It’s frustrating and lonely when your partner no longer seems to hear or see you. Communicating is as much about listening as it is about talking.
Rebuilding Trust
Whether trust was broken by lying, cheating, or neglecting one another, betrayal takes a toll on relationships. Rebuilding trust is essential to moving forward.
Set your appointment
Whether you still have questions or are ready to make an appointment, I'd love to chat with you on the phone.
Address
4131 Spicewood Springs Road, Bldg. C Suite 8 Austin, TX, 78759
Phone
830-351-8477
info@alexbarnettecounseling.com
